My husband has something wrong and dr after dr can't give us an answer.
To start just a little about us. We have been together almost 9 yrs, married almost 7. I'm 27, he is 32. We have 4 children. A boy and girl both 10 (the boy is his and the girl mine from previous relationships) then 2 girls together 7 and 2 1/2. I'm a stay at home mom and he works on cars. We both have had pretty difficult lives and that doesn't look to be changing anytime soon.
4 yrs ago it started. One weekend he begin to get very aggravated, snappy, angry and short with everyone. On Sunday, we got into a fight. It got so bad I was going to leave. He followed me out to stop me, we got into it outside, he got madder, punched my truck, we went back in and were done. He keep saying how bad his hand and head hurt. I went to change and when I came back he was in the floor and out cold. Upon waking he had forgot what happened.
We went right to the ER. While there we realized he had alot of memory loss. At the time was just about bad things that happend in his life. The Dr's at the ER found nothing wrong. All the test came back normal. They sent him home and we spent the next 3 months in and out of drs offices.
Test after test, all came back normal. They finally came up with the a answer, not what we feel it is but all they could tell us, it was stress. He had a meltdown. He was put on Xanax and after a few months the headaches went away and he got somewhat back to normal. He went off the meds and seemed to be ok.
He has never got back any memory he lost.
Over the yrs the headaches have come and gone, normally when he does get too stressed out or mad.
Then this past October, he began to get the headaches more. Got aggervaite more. His dr put him back on the Xanax
By this past April, he had gotten almost unbearible. Fighting with me none stop.
About 6 weeks ago, he started to get very "sick" again. The headaches were a few times a week, he was getting dizzy alot and feeling as if he was going to black out again. I told him over and over he needed to go to the dr and make them listen as to what is going on and find an answer, he didn't. Every day he got worse. I knew it wasn't going to be long before something happened.
Then Saturday June 27th everything came crashing down. We went out of town to have a night together since we had been fighting so much. He started to get the headache and dizziness on the drive there. After taking his meds, Xanax and Vicoden (for his back) he would be somewhat ok. He went up and down all night. Then Sunday morning around 2am, it hit him. He went to the restroom and when he came out he was holding his head, I knew this was it. He fell to his knees, I grabbed him and then he was out cold. It took about 5-10 mins to wake him.
Over the next 2 hrs he was in and out, very incoherent, and the memory loss was very serve. I didn't call anyone for the simple fact, but so feel bad for this, that where were the hospital were horrible, it was a party town and I was scared to death they would pass it off as drugs or drinking even though he hadnt done either.
In talking to him and tryin to keep him awake I showed him pictures of what we did that day (which he totally had forgot) and pictures of our kids. When I got to the ones of ours kids, things got bad. I showed him a picture of our 2 1/2 yr old lil girl, he got the look (the omg I forgot) on his face. My heart sank. I asked him, "who is this" "baby please tell me who this is". He said he didn't know. I began to cry as I told him it was his daughter. Of course he lost it, got way upset and began to cry. He said over and over "whats wrong with me?" "what kind of father am I that I dont know my own child". I told him it wasn't it fault, we will find an answer. In talking over time we have found out that the past 4 yrs since the first "attack" are a blur. He has very lil memory of it.
I the past 2 weeks we have seen 5 dr's. He has had an MRI, CT scan, EEG, ultrasound to the neck and heart, and x-rax. All came back fine. The dr's told him again it must be mental, stress, whatever. We felt in our hearts thats its more. But in tryin to believe the dr's knew what they were doing (yeah f**king right) we went to a therapist that specializes in figuring out mental disorders. She was the only one able to diagnose my oldest daughter after we seen about 6 others. So we trust her very much.
After listening to EVERYTHING that has happened she said there is no way it was mental. That alot of his symptoms only come from a physical problem, not a mental one. The headache that does not go away, being unbalanced, and a few others are in no way caused by a mental problem.
So we feel like we are back at the begin. Everyday he gets worse. He is in alot of pain 24 hrs a day, he stays dizzy, he is off balance, no memory has came back, he forgets what he is doing, forgets what day it is, shakes, and is just out right miserable. He gets very mad and upset with himself about everything. He can't work, drive or even be alone. He says he feels like an empty shell. I am heartbroken to see this everyday. I have to sit back and watch as my soulmate fades away. The biggest fear at this point is he will black out again and awake asking me who I am. I dont know what to do, or where to turn. We have yet another appt with a neurologist this week. I pray for an answer, a real one
Thank you so much for reading our story. God bless you all. May he help the doctors find everyone an answer