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This all so sucks. So my hubby is in the army and the motto for the stupid army and military is that "They take care of thier military families" I am finding that to be BS right now. Right now hubby is in Louisiana for training for a month and really has been gone off and on for a month at a time since February, then he was supposed to get leave for 15 days in august and then in Sept... back to Iraq for the third time. Ok whatever I have gotten used to him being gone alot I have become independend but sometimes I just cant always take care of myself. I need help sometimes! So... I went ahead and scheduled my hernia surgery for July 23-25th dont know yet they will call to schedule on monday, So the surgeon wrote this entire professional medical note for his commander saying I will need care for atleast a week since I am having traditional open surgery for the hernia, not laproscopic. *sigh*  However this seems to not matter they don't seem to care, they want to send him to another training in July for another 3 weeks cutting into his leave in august so he may not A. even get a leave before he goes to Iraq due to this stupid "school/training" B. Not be able to even come home to take care of me for ONE day.. NOT EVEN ONE day!!! after his wife has freaking surgery!!!! I dont have family here.. I have two large dogs WTF AM I SUPPOSED TO DO!?!!! don't we sacrifice enough.. I have to have my husband away from me all the time.. in war zones in danger fighting for our country and freedom and when I need my husband to take care of me even if its only for a few days or a week.. This is how you treat us???... ok... i see... I get it.  Cry Cry


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**Kristin**

First Struck with Anorexia on and off for about 6 years beginning in 1993. 1995 Diagnosed with GERD, IBS, Anxiety. 2006 Diagnosed with CFS, 2009 Diagnosed with Sleep Apnea and Circadian Rhythm Disorder and Hypoglycemia. 2011 Diagnosed with Vitamin D Deficiency and Hyponatremia. But... why?! I think I am one step closer to that answer ON my own. Your are your own advocate for your health! No one can tell you how you can or can't feel!
   

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GEEZ...Make sure the hospital knows nobody'll be around to help you. I know hospitals aren't fun, but it's better then being home alone.
As for the dogs, don't you have friends who can feed them?

Look at it more positively!


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Kristin I'm so sorry you are going through this  Sad I honestly don't know how you cope now without family around  Confused you are a strong women for dealing with all this and not having a nervous breakdown.

I don't know your situation 100%....but is there any chance a relative could come and stay with you for a few weeks  Question
or some form of help through the health system where you live  Question

I know they have services here for people in need after surgery etc, people come out and do your shopping, help with the pets and other household services, perhaps ask the hospital if any such thing exists  Question

Big hugs
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Sammy


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I actually just found out the RedCross can help me out here if something like this happens as far as resources for me while my hubby is in Iraq or in training etc. like home care by a nurse or something like that.

I made a phone call to the Captain's wife whom forwarded the info to her husband and to the 1st SGT. So we will see what happens now. I should know more by tuesday. They were telling him he may not get a block leave at all before he goes to Iraq which is BS because that leave time is specifically to spend with family before they leave overseas. She told me I have every right to be mad and upset and was suprised I was not actually more upset. I told her I am pretty independent when it comes to taking care of myself but sometimes I need someone and its dumb that I can't even request that my husband take care of me for a week. Soooo we will see what happens.


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**Kristin**

First Struck with Anorexia on and off for about 6 years beginning in 1993. 1995 Diagnosed with GERD, IBS, Anxiety. 2006 Diagnosed with CFS, 2009 Diagnosed with Sleep Apnea and Circadian Rhythm Disorder and Hypoglycemia. 2011 Diagnosed with Vitamin D Deficiency and Hyponatremia. But... why?! I think I am one step closer to that answer ON my own. Your are your own advocate for your health! No one can tell you how you can or can't feel!
   

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I'm glad you've found some help  Smile fingers crossed everything turns out ok

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Like Sammy said - Fingers crossed. That is not fair. Like New said, don't rush out of hospital. Can the dogs go to a kennel maybe?  You might need more than a week too, i'm a slow healer with everything else that goes on with me. Don't over do it.


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