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Offline  ohtobehealthy
June 01, 2009, 05:23:29 PM

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I have had the worst week ever. On friday I was brought into my managers office and given basically an ultimatum. I have an FMLA interrmidant leave of absence at work. However its only for certain things listed on the leave form for me its my epileptic episodes and IBS since those are the only things they can diagnose me with. So anytime I am sick with other things like my many infections I get that is considered absences. This is another reason why finding a proper diagnosis is SOOOO IMPORTANT to me. I could keep my job! because all my symptoms of whatever I have would be covered legally by a medical leave.  So anyways... I was told basically that they had allready tried cutting my hours to 30 hours a week rather than 40 and I am still calling in sick atleast once or twice a month with the cut hours so I was told I need to either be here every day for the 30 hours or take a medical leave for a month or so to get things figured out.... this is so frustrating. I cant just not work. I do need to work atleast part time to pay the bills. A month off is not going to do anything for me. Once I return things would still be the same. THEN my boss proceeds to tell me that I will most likely be put on a corrective action or written up for the other absences not covered in my leave. So basically I would be written up for like a 3 or 6 month period and if I call in sick I would be fired... Geeezus. This is not stress I need right now.


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**Kristin**

First Struck with Anorexia on and off for about 6 years beginning in 1993. 1995 Diagnosed with GERD, IBS, Anxiety. 2006 Diagnosed with CFS, 2009 Diagnosed with Sleep Apnea and Circadian Rhythm Disorder and Hypoglycemia. 2011 Diagnosed with Vitamin D Deficiency and Hyponatremia. But... why?! I think I am one step closer to that answer ON my own. Your are your own advocate for your health! No one can tell you how you can or can't feel!
   
Offline  J a s o n Snr
June 01, 2009, 06:05:23 PM

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This is still the Dark Ages as far as how employers treat employees (and sometimes even vice-versa too), I think.    I'm sorry to hear this.   Corrective action for being ill, or maybe just for being undiagnosed.   There needs to be a legal status for us who are in that sort of legal limbo.


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Offline  ohtobehealthy
June 01, 2009, 06:17:20 PM

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I agree... undiagnosed people need legal rights too but because I am undiagnosed appearently my employer believes then my illness is not real... like some of my doctors. Its really not fair.


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**Kristin**

First Struck with Anorexia on and off for about 6 years beginning in 1993. 1995 Diagnosed with GERD, IBS, Anxiety. 2006 Diagnosed with CFS, 2009 Diagnosed with Sleep Apnea and Circadian Rhythm Disorder and Hypoglycemia. 2011 Diagnosed with Vitamin D Deficiency and Hyponatremia. But... why?! I think I am one step closer to that answer ON my own. Your are your own advocate for your health! No one can tell you how you can or can't feel!
   
Offline  Keilia
June 01, 2009, 06:50:55 PM

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Told You It Was Not All In My Head!
 Huge Hug Huge Hug Huge Hug


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Offline  ohtobehealthy
June 01, 2009, 07:33:55 PM

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guys I really need someone to talk to right now. I am supposed to go to work at 3 today but my body feels horrible. Stomach pains and just no appetite. I had to force myself to eat something due to low blood sugar but I think its still low but I am so nausiated I cant eat, I have ate snacks though throughout the day but its like its not letting the blood sugar rise. I tried to take a shower but I am so pale looking, I feel extremely weak like I am going to pass out and just so malaised. I cried and cried in the shower... I could barely stand long enough for that. I had to lay down... What am I going to do?  My work gave me the ultimatum allready.... i am so stressed over this and then the new meds of the lamisil I think are messing with my body. I feel so alone here right now... and I dont often cry but I am crying like a baby because this all feels helpless. I feel like I am gonna lose my job if I dont go in but I am too weak to even stand and get ready..... even though I have ate and I ate a big full dinner last night really late too... i am so lost right now.  Cry Cry Cry


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**Kristin**

First Struck with Anorexia on and off for about 6 years beginning in 1993. 1995 Diagnosed with GERD, IBS, Anxiety. 2006 Diagnosed with CFS, 2009 Diagnosed with Sleep Apnea and Circadian Rhythm Disorder and Hypoglycemia. 2011 Diagnosed with Vitamin D Deficiency and Hyponatremia. But... why?! I think I am one step closer to that answer ON my own. Your are your own advocate for your health! No one can tell you how you can or can't feel!
   
Offline  Keilia
June 01, 2009, 08:38:46 PM

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Told You It Was Not All In My Head!
I sent you a PM...I am always around and have a good shoulder...


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Offline  Samantha
June 01, 2009, 09:48:13 PM

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I Will Be Diagnosed !
Kristin Im so so sorry   Huge Hug

I've been in your shoes but luckily for me family support helped me through....
Co-workers always thought I was just faking illness (god how they have no idea)....so I eventually resigned. I didn't want a black mark for future job references............


I'm not completely sure of your circumstances and payment options in the USA  Confused Social security benefits  Question
is that something you could look into  Question I know it wont be the same earnings as you currently receive but.........

The stress of all this is NOT GOOD for your health. I wish there was more I could do  Sad
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Offline  ohtobehealthy
June 02, 2009, 02:57:53 AM

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I just dont know its so hard to get anything benefits wise with no diagnosis of anything. I did decide that I am going to take a few weeks or month off from work in july to focus on my health since I think I will be needing a surgery around that time anyhoo for my hernia. We are trying to financially plan at this point.
Also... we live on a military installation and my hubby wanted me to go with him so he could get some food. I reluctantly went with my seat fully reclined because I felt like crap. Soooo guess what happens!? we get randomly picked for a search...as I was standing there the pain in my abdomen became severe and intense to where I couldnt stand anymore or walk. I started to cry.. the guards wanted to call the paramedics because I guess I just look weak and pale. All the guards helped me up and to walk and really wanted to call the EMTS.. i convinced them not to. What good would it had done... i know its from that lamisil crap i was taking and what would they do.. give me some mylanta and send me home .. most likely.

but that was it... I will no longer be taking the lamisil.. that stuff is horrible!!!  who knows whats gonna happen now with the horrible fungal infection.... *sigh* what a stupid stupid day.


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**Kristin**

First Struck with Anorexia on and off for about 6 years beginning in 1993. 1995 Diagnosed with GERD, IBS, Anxiety. 2006 Diagnosed with CFS, 2009 Diagnosed with Sleep Apnea and Circadian Rhythm Disorder and Hypoglycemia. 2011 Diagnosed with Vitamin D Deficiency and Hyponatremia. But... why?! I think I am one step closer to that answer ON my own. Your are your own advocate for your health! No one can tell you how you can or can't feel!
   
Offline  New28
June 02, 2009, 07:40:49 AM

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When all else fails, play dead!
Oh Kristin, I am so sorry. Huge Hug Huge Hug Huge Hug Huge Hug
With work, get written notes from a doctor to say why you're not working. Legally, they can't fire you if you have a doctor's note.


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Offline  ohtobehealthy
June 02, 2009, 04:01:41 PM

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New thats what is so confusing to me. Anytime that I call in for a reason NOT listed on my leave forms I go to the doctor and provide my employer with a note from the doctor. I dont think I am going to end up getting fired.. not today anyways. They most likely are going to write me up first for my attendence. Then possibly demote me but I might end up demoting myself before that happens. ugh I dont know. I go back today and get to talk some more with the manager and district manager. Wish me luck.  This is sure a crappy way to treat someone that has worked for the company for 6 years.  Cry


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**Kristin**

First Struck with Anorexia on and off for about 6 years beginning in 1993. 1995 Diagnosed with GERD, IBS, Anxiety. 2006 Diagnosed with CFS, 2009 Diagnosed with Sleep Apnea and Circadian Rhythm Disorder and Hypoglycemia. 2011 Diagnosed with Vitamin D Deficiency and Hyponatremia. But... why?! I think I am one step closer to that answer ON my own. Your are your own advocate for your health! No one can tell you how you can or can't feel!
   
Offline  ohtobehealthy
June 03, 2009, 06:01:38 PM

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so I went back to work yesterday. It was quite awful, I felt sooooo weak even though I eat sufficient meals that doesnt seem to matter, I was so weak and so tired and fatigued yesterday that I had to hold myself up on the counters even talking to customers made me exhausted. Sometimes talking is just too much for me I allready have a weak voice so I strain to be loud but its just to much sometimes. I had severe shortness of breath and I had to take several breaks to sit down but then all of a sudden at around 6:30pm I felt completely fine. Energy was restored and I felt fine... I just DONT GET IT.  aggressive aggressive


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**Kristin**

First Struck with Anorexia on and off for about 6 years beginning in 1993. 1995 Diagnosed with GERD, IBS, Anxiety. 2006 Diagnosed with CFS, 2009 Diagnosed with Sleep Apnea and Circadian Rhythm Disorder and Hypoglycemia. 2011 Diagnosed with Vitamin D Deficiency and Hyponatremia. But... why?! I think I am one step closer to that answer ON my own. Your are your own advocate for your health! No one can tell you how you can or can't feel!
   
Offline  J a s o n Snr
June 05, 2009, 06:45:55 PM

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Any stuff in the air that comes and goes, anything with a strong or strange smell (even if it's an everyday substance-- it could be a chemical allergy)?   Was there some food or pills you ate earlier that might have passed out of your system by 6:30?    Did you feel you might be breathing better or worse during the day at any point?


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Offline  Cathie
June 13, 2009, 11:07:04 AM

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What a horrible situation Kristin. I'm so sorry, and i sure hope you're having a better day today.
It sounds very different to over here, so i don't have a clue.

The economic situation wouldn't be helping i guess, they are probably trying to find reasons to put people off. I know Brett's work have laid off hundreds and Brett himself is now force to use up any extra hours and all the pays and travel are frozen.


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